#73【新年の抱負は達成できないでしょう】You Will Fail! New Year's Resolution

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せーの。 Happy New Year. What's up, amazing people? This is IYASASA RADIO by Akane and Minami.

In this radio, we are going to talk about random topics in Okinawan, Japanese, and English.

はいたーい。ぐすーよーちゅーがなびら。イヤササレディオのアカネとミナミアイビーン。このレーディオでぐすーよーんかい英語とウチナーグチさんにいっぺーうむさるはなしトゥドゥケーンリチウムトゥゴイビーン。

According to statistics from United States, most people who make New Year's Resolutions end up failing to keep them.

Despite knowing the difficulty of maintaining goals, why do we continue this cycle?

It's important to consider how to approach New Year's Resolutions without being crushed by excessive pressure.

Many people quickly falter after making their resolutions.

One reason for this failure is the phenomenon known as abstinence violation.

This is a negative psychological reaction that occurs when someone resumes an activity they had voluntarily stopped.

Making New Year's Resolutions is not pointless, but given the pace of modern life, achieving desires results within a year may be challenging.

Charles Duhigg, author of The Power of Habit, suggests that instead of making New Year's Resolutions, it's more effective to create longer-term plans, especially for breaking bad habits.

Change should occur gradually and should not be constrained by arbitrary deadlines.

According to statistics from United States, most people who make New Year's Resolutions end up failing to keep them.

Despite knowing the difficulty of maintaining goals, why do we continue this cycle?

It's important to consider how to approach New Year's Resolutions without being crushed by excessive pressure.

Many people quickly falter after making their resolutions.

One reason for this failure is the phenomenon known as abstinence violation.

This is a negative psychological reaction that occurs when someone resumes an activity they had voluntarily stopped.

Making New Year's Resolutions is not pointless, but given the pace of modern life, achieving desires results within a year may be challenging.

Charles Duhigg, author of The Power of Habit, suggests that instead of making New Year's Resolutions, it's more effective to create longer-term plans, especially for breaking bad habits.

Change should occur gradually and should not be constrained by arbitrary deadlines.

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I always make New Year's Resolutions every year.

But this year, I saw this article and I didn't make any plans for this year.

This year is different for me.

Usually, New Year's Eve is a big event for me, so I prepare for that, for the night, to party.

But this year, I was so calm.

It's not changing anything for me.

I'm passing by and New Year came.

Just human beings make this year's things.

I didn't feel like New Year's this year.

I don't really think about New Year's Resolutions, but I'm always thinking like what I want to do.

Like next month or this month.

Do you review the last year, what you did, what you couldn't do?

Briefly reviewing, but not in detail.

But I know that the things I couldn't do, but I'm like, it's gonna be fine.

I don't really care about it.

It might be a slower evolution.

But it's not like I stopped.

If I had spent the year as if time had stopped perfectly, that was the time.

This is what it is.

Because I live on the basis.

You become like an old woman, suddenly.

Wait, wait, wait.

I'm always like this.

That's what I learned last year.

Last year was like a huge year for me.

Changing my career.

You were so active.

By month, by year, last year.

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It was so fast to go through, so I couldn't catch up with things happening.

I think you didn't plan in detail.

You plan or you were thinking, wished, but expanding your business overall.

I think I made some team or group or community to follow.

So they plan the detail and I just follow.

Go with the flow.

Go with the flow and then follow with the team and that's the results.

I want to do this 2024.

Because my unki is not good.

Where did you find your unki?

Getter's Iida Shichusui-mei.

This year, Minami and I are the second roles.

In terms of youth, it's like a turbulent year.

But it's not good to do new things by yourself.

But I think it's good to understand that.

That's why I get other people's opinions and what they want to do.

And I get their unki together.

You get their unki together.

Everyone except me.

I think it's good.

Do you remember what the fortune or fortune teller or something like that say?

What year it's gonna be for you until the end of the year?

No.

No, right?

No.

So just the beginning of the year, you see the fortune teller or fortune teller.

This year, it's gonna be like this for me.

And then you start it and then you forget it.

And then you just go with the flow.

But I think I won't forget that I can't allow myself to follow other people's suggestions or other people's wants.

According to my standard personality, I am a bit stubborn what to do.

It's good to follow the flow, but when it comes to the house, I tend to stick to something.

But when it comes to the last two options, you can decide.

You can say that to the other person.

Can you do this?

If you narrow it down to that, you might be able to do it.

Really?

If you were to ask me to find something out of all these options, I'd be like, why did you choose this one?

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But if I narrow it down to two options and I can't decide, I'll be like, please.

True, but I feel like if you choose something out of all the options, it's your choice.

I've been doing it. I've been following Akane for a while.

It's not about my luck.

These five years, I think, I started to make other people decide something related to me.

I didn't have a partner like two years ago, and I was all by myself.

I listened to my mom, dad, my friends, everyone.

When I'm really in trouble, I'll let them decide.

It might be a little different.

I think about what to do if I regret it.

It's about shopping.

But I don't blame people for choosing me.

It's not my decision.

It feels good to have someone else decide for you.

Freelancer is like make a decision every minute by yourself.

Like how to use my money, how to live my life, where, what, with who.

It's all customized by Minami.

It sounds good, but it's so tiring.

And it's sometimes boring.

Last year, I realized that working as a team, working for the team, working for other people is much more fun than just working for myself.

Because I can do much work for them.

And I get more energy for something.

So it's more fun and I get more reactions.

Working by myself as a freelancer, basically.

But working as a team, sometimes.

I think it's better to work together because you get a new wind.

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You can say whatever you want.

Random ideas.

And if I like it, then it's good.

There are moments like that.

True.

But when I listen too much and I don't understand, I learned that I should listen to myself.

True.

I know more than everyone else.

My husband always say like, you are expert of this, like planning events.

So like, you can ask somebody else for the ideas, but you should decide the final judge because you have more experience and knowledge for that.

When I heard that, it encouraged me to go for the point.

People tend to forget about it.

Right?

Compared to other people.

Yeah.

I am not better at anything, with anybody.

No matter how far I go, I can't be the best business person in this field.

Because there are too many amazing people.

Right.

I am trying to create my own rarity by doing what I can.

I thought about it a few times in the field of web design.

For example, I worked with a student who can analyze the page.

I thought that if I became a professional, I would be more self-sufficient.

To be honest, if you ask me if I am good at it, it's not because I am good at it.

It's because my brain is not good at it.

I can understand people's feelings, but I can't do this kind of job.

Well, it's either way.

I always think that becoming a professional here is a good way.

But those professionals are not good at reading people's mind.

You have your role.

Like how to work.

You have to make use of your strengths.

Only special people can do that.

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So I thought a lot about my role last year.

I talked to a lot of people.

They said that they can do it better than me.

Sometimes I realize that.

But in the end, when I think that everyone has their own role,

I can see my position.

If I have the mind to focus on it, I will be more confident.

I can move faster.

You can focus on your path.

That's what I thought.

But if you are doing some small business,

I think it's something you have to think about all the time.

For example, there are people who want to be first class.

But it's okay to be second class.

I want to be a friendly person.

I think Minami is like that.

So it's easier to think that you are not superior.

You don't have to say things you don't mean.

I want to be like this as work, partnership, friendship, family.

His goal is just one goal.

To become a good person.

The goal is to become the person you want to be.

It's not only for work.

It's not private.

The goal is to become the person you want to be.

You don't have to decide when you want to be that person.

It's your goal to become that person.

Even if you have a lot of jobs,

even if you date a lot of people,

even if you are with your family or friends,

the goal is to become the person you want to be.

I think that's really good.

No matter what job you have,

no matter where you live,

that's the goal.

You can't change it.

Maybe you don't think it's a goal.

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The goal is to become the person you want to be as a human being.

She doesn't have a career goal.

I want to be a good person.

I agree 100%.

That's what I'm thinking all the time as well.

But I also have a goal for the job too.

It's great that you can narrow it down to just one goal.

I want to be a good person.

I want to be an attractive person.

I think you've already achieved your goal.

But it's difficult to continue to be that person.

It's a continuous process.

A lot of things happen.

When you don't have a lot of vibes,

you become weak.

You get attracted to money.

You get attracted to greed.

You compare yourself to other people.

But you can't do that.

You have to be strong and attractive to yourself.

You have to know what you value.

That's an amazing goal to set.

I think it's good.

Good person.

But in English,

there's a term people say a lot.

I am a good person.

But in Japanese, we don't have that kind of word.

In English,

there are a lot of expressions that have a lot of self-esteem.

In Japanese, it's like, I'm a good person.

When I heard you say that in the drama,

I wanted to say that.

But when you say it in Japanese,

sometimes people say, what?

I'm a good person.

It sounds like a fraud.

It's not like I want to be a good person.

I'm a good person.

When I say I'm a good person,

people are like, what? Already?

It sounds like a flashy way to say it,

but I think that's all there is to it.

A good person is a very vague word.

I don't think you'll know what that is until you die.

That's the base.

For example, setting a standard for happiness.

For example, if you're a Nyami,

you have your own life,

your family is alive,

and you're able to live.

That's a fundamental happiness.

But if you keep living,

you'll be able to raise your goals to the pyramid.

If that happens,

you'll be able to overcome your goals at work.

If you can do that,

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you'll be able to use your influence to help others.

You'll be able to go higher and higher.

But your husband is very conscious of the basic happiness.

The foundation is very broad.

It doesn't matter what it is.

Yeah, that's how it is.

Because you're the only one who can judge that.

That's why he's popular with people.

A lot of people come to him.

But I don't think it's fun.

Maybe it is, but I don't think it's fun.

I thought it was interesting.

If you're living now,

it's pretty hard to focus on that.

Maybe it's something that everyone hasn't noticed.

If that's the goal,

it doesn't matter what you do.

You're not the king of human power,

but you're learning the human power of a psycho.

Until now, I've been thinking about my career.

For example, how much I want to earn.

I want to live in a place like this.

I want things. I want to live in a place like this.

I set my goals with a lot of visual things.

I was like that when I was in my 20s.

And it was very detailed.

How many months, how many years.

Sometimes weekly goal.

I set, but I couldn't achieve it often.

Because the goal expectation is really high.

I was like that.

After doing that, what?

In myself.

Do I do it to be happy?

Do I do it to be popular with people?

Being rich and doing what you want to do,

you do it to satisfy your desires.

Even if you don't carry it up,

I wonder if you were worried about what people would think.

If you can do this much in yourself,

you think you've grown,

so you're setting that kind of goal.

But in the end,

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when I did it,

if there was no happiness,

it didn't mean much.

I had that kind of thought.

But the results were much better than I expected.

I thought that,

and I was able to do it.

If I wanted to meet this person,

if I did that kind of thing,

that person would come.

It's a bit of a draw.

Even if you don't set a goal in detail,

the way to achieve it is to keep that mind.

I might have set a big goal,

but I don't think it's necessary to set a small goal.

That's the opposite of perfectionist.

Being perfectionist is so unhealthy.

That's what I think.

Creators should be like that.

That's why good creations come out.

But it's mentally heavy.

That's what I think.

If you want to keep the quality of your output

in the best condition,

In a sense,

just because you want to be a human being,

you give up the details.

Maybe you've already achieved it.

Maybe he's helpless.

Maybe.

I think he's not good at that kind of thing when he's young.

I think I'm not that kind of person.

I don't go as far as an outsider.

If you have a lot of thoughts,

when you achieve something in society,

you realize it's meaningless the moment you achieve it.

I think that a lot.

For example,

I'm happy for a moment,

but I think it's going to be like that in the end.

If you don't have a base.

I think there's something you've lost in the time you've spent there.

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That's right.

I feel like I'm missing that.

Well, that might be important,

but everything I've done should make sense.

Like, I want to be like this.

You have just a vision,

but you didn't plan.

Second option.

Because if I want to achieve something,

something is like the best version of myself.

Yeah.

Okay, let me...

If I want to be like a world-class podcaster,

like Joe Logan,

then I need to image that being him in my body.

Yeah.

And I don't know the process.

Like, fake it till you make it.

Yeah, yeah.

Joe Minami.

Yeah.

But you need to live with money in this world.

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Yeah, yeah.

That's right.

Like, when I start thinking about like,

I want to work remotely,

it's like, I look up only one person.

And I didn't know the detail.

But I keep saying to the others,

like, I want to be like this, I want to be like this,

but I don't know how to do it,

but I will be like that.

I remember you were talking about it when you were in Tokyo.

But I didn't have any idea.

Like, what are you talking about?

Like, I don't have any idea, basically.

But we were doing the same thing.

You don't have to feel shame about it

or embarrassed about doing something, you know,

like a modern job, like YouTuber,

or like podcaster, or, you know,

want to be outstanding person.

Those people probably not be happy

being busy all the time.

Yeah, but this is, right now,

it's like I really love to do,

like talking to a person.

So, like, I have a goal,

but I don't want to make a lot of money

even after 10 years.

I might be doing a different job all the time,

but, like,

if people recognize me,

I will be very happy.

Yes, yes, yes.

First, basically,

if I have a fan,

I will be very satisfied.

I won't stop there,

but, like,

expand, expand,

bigger scale,

if I keep thinking like that,

like, the content I choose

will be uneven.

I have to do it as I started.

And then,

you don't be,

you don't feel shame,

or, like,

compared too much to other people

how you are right now.

But you are satisfied with doing it

because...

At the end of the day.

Yeah.

That's a good example, yeah.

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I used to be, like,

more of a perfectionist.

Like, then, I'm, you know,

when, if I was a student,

then I was thinking,

what kind of job,

it sounds good to adults.

It's not your dream.

Like, you don't know,

then say,

I don't know my dream.

Like,

when I was in elementary school,

I was told to go to a flower shop or a cake shop,

and I was like,

I don't want to do it at all.

But everyone told me one by one,

like, what?

Then,

learn from that person

and go to a cake shop.

Like,

I think it's good to be told.

That's why I was saying,

like, I want to be like this.

Then, I didn't have any idea

what I want to be

until probably in a university.

Then,

I think most of students

haven't met enough people

to imagine how they want to be.

They didn't even know, like,

what kind of job

there is in our world.

So,

I think it's impossible

to decide what you want to be.

Impossible.

But,

you have to decide.

Yeah.

You have to decide.

Like,

you need to decide

which school you go to.

Yeah.

Like, which country you go to

for like,

like a working holiday

or,

I don't know,

exchange students.

Yeah.

At that time,

I decided to go to New York

Yeah.

I wanted to join the company of

Victoria's Secret at that time.

Then, I also realized

I didn't want to be

in the fashion industry anymore

because of the people.

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At the end of the day,

I became a wedding planner

in Okinawa.

Yeah.

But,

all the paths you threw

is meaningful

Yeah.

to become

who you are right now.

That's what I realized.

Yeah.

I realized that now.

Yeah.

At that time,

I really didn't know

what I wanted to do.

Yeah.

I didn't know.

I didn't know,

so I made a plan.

I made a plan,

but I didn't achieve the goal.

My goal changed all the time.

So, making a plan

is a good process

to review yourself

without doing anything.

To find what you really want to do.

But,

if you didn't plan anything,

but you become something.

To be honest,

I don't know if it's meaningful.

Is it like

whether you like it or not?

Or,

I like to do that.

I really like to plan everything.

Ah,

like to plan a plan.

I plan,

and I'm satisfied with it.

Even if I didn't achieve the goal.

Yeah.

That's how it was.

At some point,

I feel like it's pointless

to make a plan.

At some point,

I realized that.

Yeah.

In the end,

there were people

who didn't make a plan.

Yeah.

I saw them reaching the goal.

Yeah.

I made a plan,

and my plan changed all the time.

Yeah.

I experienced

like,

what the hell is this?

Yeah.

I forgot

the resolution

I made for New Years.

Yeah.

Like that.

Same.

But,

you should have

some vague vision.

What do you want to be?

Yeah.

Then,

you might have achieved it

before you knew it.

Yeah.

Even if you didn't achieve it,

you don't feel

depressed about it.

Yeah.

Because,

you don't stuck with it.

I just thought of it.

Yeah.

School education.

Yeah.

Like,

having a dream

is not having

your career goal.

Basically.

But,

a lot of Japanese students

feel pressure

about like,

they need to think about

like,

specific job.

Uh-huh.

But,

like,

dreaming

what kind of person

you want to be

Uh-huh.

is something

you should do.

Uh-huh.

And along

that vision,

you,

if you

find

some career

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or job

or the position,

Yeah.

that enhance you

to someone

that you want to be.

Uh-huh.

If so,

I think

it will connect

with your job

for the first time.

I think.

Yeah.

So,

like,

in my,

like,

my example is like,

my job

is like,

digital marketing.

But,

besides that,

I'm doing this

podcast.

Yeah.

It's like,

something

raise me up

to be myself.

Yeah.

Like,

even better.

You're close

to be yourself

what,

how you want to be.

Uh-huh.

So,

Yeah,

I feel the same way

when I do podcast.

Digging myself.

Uh-huh.

Through talking to you.

Like,

the goal is

like,

your husband's goal

is the same,

but what kind of person

you want to be.

Uh-huh.

But,

if it's a job like this,

you need to pursue

the human side

and pursue the quality

of the job.

It's pretty difficult.

Yeah.

There are things

you have to do.

If it's a company,

you have to set

all your sales goals.

Uh-huh.

You can't evaluate

people

in the company

or in real life.

Yeah.

So,

you have to do it.

Uh-huh.

As an economic activity.

Uh-huh.

So,

podcast should be

done

as an economic activity.

Uh-huh.

But,

that's why

it's a dream.

Uh-huh.

I think it's a good dream.

It's good to say it myself.

Uh-huh.

If you can make a living

with this,

You want to like

and earn money

at the same time.

Yeah.

And,

that makes me

myself more.

And,

that

makes yourself

to be

more yourself.

Yeah.

Uh-huh.

You can be yourself.

It means

you can get closer

to your karma.

Uh-huh.

I can be so energetic.

Uh-huh.

I know what I'm doing.

Yeah.

Despite of

the popularity

on this

platform.

Uh-huh.

I don't care.

Uh-huh.

So,

content

about

my content.

Uh-huh.

I know

some people like

support us.

Yeah.

Told me like

keep doing

what you're doing.

Uh-huh.

Those people are

my, our

treasure.

Uh-huh.

They do the same thing.

Uh-huh.

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It looks so

attractive.

Uh-huh.

Pursuing

what you want to do

and how you wanna be.

Uh-huh.

It's so difficult

to pursue

in this

world

right now.

So,

Yeah.

Uh-huh.

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Uh-huh.

Yeah, you are the reflection of every energy.

If you live alone, you're going to get depression.

For sure.

Humans are social creatures after all.

Yeah.

Right now, I'm tired of social media.

Then I start thinking like, hey, maybe it's better to be an anti-social person.

I think like that.

But right now, there are too many people involved.

It's abnormal to live alone.

When I look back at the old days when there were no digital tools,

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I think that there is no point in living without being involved with others.

Of course, right now, it's just about the skill of narrowing down the number of people.

So I don't think you need to hate humans so much.

History is interesting.

It was the Babylonian era.

About 4000 years ago.

The practice might have had religious undertones and Christians and Jews pursued self-improvement every year.

I think back in the day, having a new resolution was to have a vision what kind of person they want to be.

But the economic or the civilization developed.

But they were promises to the gods.

Promises something to pursue what they want to do in the year.

Want to do or self-improvement.

They can be anything.

Self-improvement.

It's about self-improvement.

It's not about financial.

Right now, it's capitalism.

It's always about money.

I think that's the base tool.

I read in another manga,

When you don't have money,

Everyone is desperate to live their own life.

For example, they eat vegetables in the field.

And that's the end of the day.

But from a certain point on,

You can exchange it for paper like paper money.

It might have been gold.

Since you were born,

You don't have to deal with everything in your life.

You don't have to deal with everything yourself.

You can ask someone to give you a tomato.

That's how people started to connect with each other.

So there's a lot of anti-capitalism opinions these days.

But if you look back,

People connect because they have money.

At that time, it was a great tool.

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I think so.

If you don't have money,

You don't need to get involved with other people.

You can go to a store and exchange money and things.

That's where you get involved.

That's true.

I increased my relationship through work.

It became a friendship sometimes.

Or just a workship.

Money is just a tool.

And capitalism is not evil.

It's just evolution.

That's all I can say for now.

This is ZetiDesist, a project by Google Maps in 2012.

A user shared their new year's resolution on a map.

The result was a cultural festival-like resolution.

For example, the US anti-capitalism is about health.

The answer from India and Asia is career up, and Russian users have a tendency to make promises related to education.

You see, it's Asia, so there are a lot of career ups, right?

Why do you want such a career up?

I don't know.

Career up equals making money, right?

But China, Korea, India, and all of Asia other than Japan are very active.

So I don't think it's a bad thing to make a career up because it's the same as envisioning a better life.

Career up not in the country versus other countries.

So they can have more business.

Now, with such a movement, if it's achieved, for example, China overtakes the United States,

it becomes something like veganism, diversity, and meditation.

It seeks spirituality.

It's a cycle.

Then it goes back to a career up.

Basically, it's asking for nothing.

Because if you're not satisfied, you can't talk about your mind.

You need a basic life.

I think it comes from the safety of life.

There's food.

There's food, there's a toilet.

There's a place to live.

You know, that SNS thing.

Life spirit.

There were a lot of interesting things in English.

Well, we've been exposed to the images of people all over the world,