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Welcome to Your English Toolbox, the podcast wherewe train your ears and your mind step by step.
I am Peter, and today we are going to master thelanguage of emotions.
We are going to practice shadowing with 100sentences about expressing feelings,
asking deep questions, and confronting otherspolitely.
I recommend you listen to our previous episodewith Rose, the psychologist,
where we explained these concepts in detail.Today, we will turn that theory into practice.
I will read 100 sentences divided into 5 blocks.Your job is to listen and then repeat exactly
what I say during the silence. Take a deep breath,relax your shoulders, and let's begin.
Block 1. Identifying the Feeling
I am not just fine, I am actually tired. We oftensay we are fine because we are afraid to show
real emotions. Language is a tool for deepconnection, not express sadness.
I am only using half my toolbox. Ignoring myfeelings is actually dangerous. I am ready to
stop hiding and start speaking the truth. We mustidentify the exact word for the feeling.
There is a big difference between being angry andbeing frustrated. Angry is a strong,
hot feeling of displeasure. Frustrated is when youwant to do something, but you cannot.
If I cannot find my keys, I feel frustrated. Ifsomeone steals my keys, I feel angry.
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Precision matters because naming the emotion calmsthe brain. We call this technique
name it to tame it. I am feeling overwhelmedtoday. Overwhelmed means I have too much pressure
to handle. It is okay to admit that I have toomuch work. Anxiety is different from fear
because it lives in the future. I am feelinganxious about my interview tomorrow.
When I tell you I am anxious, I am inviting you tohelp me.
Block 2. The Danger of Bottling Up
If I do not speak, I tend to bottle up myfeelings. Bottling up is like shaking a soda
bottle with the cap on tight. I am putting thepressure inside and closing it. Eventually,
the bottle will explode. When I explode, I mightlash out at someone. To lash out means to attack
verbally because of anger. I do not want to lashout at the people I love.
This kind of explosion damages relationships. Theopposite of bottling up is to open up.
To open up means to start talking about my innerworld. Opening up requires vulnerability,
but it builds trust. There is a physical benefitto speaking the truth. Bottling up increases my
stress hormones. Opening up releases oxytocin, thebonding chemical, speaking English.
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Honestly is good for my health. I need to open upbecause I cannot bottle this up anymore.
Don't lash out. Just try to open up. Vulnerabilityis a strength,
not a weakness. I choose to share my feelings.Instead of hiding them, I feel lighter when I
speak my truth. Block 3. How to Confront Someone
Confrontation is the hardest part ofcommunication. I stay silent because I am afraid
to be rude.
I need a psychological trick to confront withoutfighting. The best tool is called
the I-statement. You-statements sound like anattack. If I say,
you never listen, you will want to defendyourself. Instead, I must focus on my own feeling.
The formula is, I feel X when you do Y. I feelfrustrated when you interrupt me.
Notice that I am not saying you are a bad person.I am saying your action produces a feeling in me.
I feel hurt when you arrive late. It feels like mytime is not important to you.
This invites the other person to understand, notto fight. It is simple to say,
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but hard to do in the moment. I need to get thisoff my chest.
Getting it off my chest means removing the heavyweight. When I finally say it,
I can breathe again. The fear was mostly in myhead. I feel disappointed when plans change
at the last minute. Block 4. Asking About Feelings
A conversation is a two-way street. Asking, whoare you? Is often just a reflex.
I need to ask questions that invite a real answer.Instead of a yes or no question, be specific.
What is on your mind right now? You seem a bitquiet today. That is an observation
that invites an answer. I notice you are sighing alot. Do you want to talk about it?
This gives you permission to open up. It alsogives you permission to stay silent.
I respect your space if you do not want to talk.Observing body language is key to connection.
Is everything okay with the project? You look alittle bit stressed today.
I am ready to listen if you are ready to speak.Tell me what is worrying you.
Has something happened to make you feel this way?I care about how you are feeling.
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We can talk about it whenever you are ready. Block5. Empathy and Validation
Many people panic if someone starts crying. Thebest thing to say is often very simple.
It is okay to cry. I am here with you. I do notneed to fix the problem immediately.
I just need to be present with you. To empathizemeans to feel what you are feeling.
Sympathy is feeling sorry for someone. Empathy isfeeling with them.
Connection comes from true empathy. I can imaginehow hard that is for you.
Thank you for trusting me with this. I appreciateyou telling me the truth.
I will never say, don't worry, to someone in pain.Saying don't worry
invalidates their feelings. Makes sense that youare sad. Your feelings are valid
and understandable. Practice with small feelingsto build your emotional muscles.
I felt disappointed when the restaurant wasclosed. Connect with your heart.
Not your perfect grammar. Correct grammar helps.But honesty connects.
Conclusion We have completed the 100 sentences.
We moved from I am fine to deep empathy and honestconfrontation.
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Repeating these sentences helps your braininternalize the structure of emotions in English.
Now I have an important request for you. If youenjoyed this episode,
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Thank you for listening. I am Peter, and I willsee you in the next episode.
