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Welcome to Kevin's English Room Podcast.
Hello, hello.
This is from Maiko-san.
All right.
ケビンさん、山ちゃん、こんにちは。
こんにちは。
通勤の車の中で聞くのがルーティンになり、一日が楽しくスタートできます。ありがとうございます。
Thank you.
私は学生の頃コロラドでホームステイをしたことがあるのですが、
ホストマザーが4歳や5歳の子供に叱るとき必ず部屋へ行きなさいと言うのですが、
アメリカではこれは当たり前なのでしょうか。
海外ドラマや映画などでもそのような場面を見たことがあります。
日本では親が説教することが多い気がするのですが、
アメリカでは距離を置くことで反省させるのでしょうか。
日本とアメリカの叱り方について教えてください。
また、ケビンさんはどうでしたか。最後まで読んでいただきありがとうございます。
ああ、そうだね。
日本ではそんなことはしないんですか?
部屋へ行きなさい。
全くそんなことはしませんが、
本当にそうです。
本当にそうです。
逆に言うと、
ここに来てください。
そうですね。
そして、
叱る。
そうですね。
そうですね。
そうですね。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
部屋へ行きなさい。
なるほど。
It's like, get out of this party.
Yeah, yeah.
Oh, that's...
I don't think we don't have that.
Uh-huh.
Yeah.
It's rather like, yeah,
出てきなさい!
Kind of.
Uh-huh.
That happens a lot.
Come out.
Yeah, yeah.
And go to the living room.
Yeah.
出てきなさい!
Sort of opposite.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
That's interesting.
Yeah.
Interesting.
I don't know if you have this in the United States, too, but...
押入れに入ってなさい。
Not your room, but like a...
In your closet?
Yeah.
Or like a...
For example, like a 庭の小屋。
あそこに入ってなさい。
It's like called おしおき部屋 or something like that.
Okay.
It's very closed.
It's, you know, it's a very small space.
Black.
That's not something...
Some place you...
People meant to live in.
There's no light.
And it's like...
That's why.
It's like a punishment.
Oh.
Yeah.
Is that...
Is that accepted nowadays?
I'm not sure.
That seems like an abuse.
Yeah.
But it's one of the...
Yeah, because it's punishment, so...
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I'm not sure if everybody does that in Japan now, but...
But back then.
I mean, talk about the rooms.
Yeah.
I've never seen people like...
自分の部屋に入ってなさい。
But if you do that in Japan, that's not your room, but...
Those like special room.
I see.
I see.
Yeah.
That's something I know, but...
I see.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yes, it is a thing.
Go to your room is a thing that we do to punish kids.
How you guys gonna come out from your room?
Several hours, I guess.
Several hours.
You stay in a room?
Yeah, I guess after dinner, like when dinner's over, you just come back.
Oh.
Yeah.
I mean, the incident happens during the dinner?
Yeah, for example.
Yeah.
Go to your room.
Go to your room.
And then you just sit in your room.
And like do things.
Yeah.
Do stuff.
Right.
Do whatever you have in your room.
And then after several hours, you go back.
Okay.
I'm sorry.
Yeah, and say sorry.
Yeah.
Oh.
One of the parents would come to the room and be like, hey, let's talk about what happened,
man.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Oh.
Yeah.
Maybe you don't do that in Japan.
If something happens during the dinner time, then at that spot, you will be like...
Punished.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You will be sleeping from that place, you know?
Yeah.
If you go to your own room.
Yeah.
Right.
Different culture.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Were you...
Did you get scolded a lot?
Did your parents get mad at you?
I don't think...
Not many, I think.
Yeah, but I remember sometimes.
I remember my dad, my mom.
What was the most angriest moment your parents got?
I forget why.
Oh.
You just remember them angry.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I remember my dad was very angry at me, but I don't remember why.
Yeah.
Did you?
Yeah, I remember I was fighting with my sister.
I kicked a...
Sentaku kago.
Oh, okay.
Sentaku kago.
Yeah, it was a plastic sentaku.
It was a big plastic sentaku kago.
Where did you guys fighting?
It was in the living room because my mother was like folding the clothes, right?
Okay, okay, okay.
And then there was an empty basket of sentaku kago, right?
Right in the middle of the living room.
And I got pissed because me and my sister was fighting.
I kicked it and I broke it.
Because I got physical, my dad got angry.
Okay.
Yeah.
I remember that.
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I remember.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah, that's, I mean, good memory, no?
Yeah, good memory.
It's cute.
I mean...
Yeah.
That was the most like emotionally angry that I remember getting.
I've done more like, as I got more mature, like I've done, like my parents would like
get at me like in a more calmer way, you know?
Like as I grow older, it's more like, why did you do that?
So I'm like...
Yeah, more severe one.
Yeah, so that was like the most like emotional angry, I guess.
Yeah.
Okay, okay.
Yeah.
Explain, son.
Yeah.
Explain why.
Yeah, which is more scary.
Yeah, which is a lot more scarier.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Do you think you can handle, if you ever get a son or a daughter, do you think you can
handle like, like Shikaru?
What's your plan of like teaching them the lesson, you know?
That's a...
Yeah.
I mean, I don't have any plans at this point.
Yeah.
But I want to be somebody is like, partially, it kind of, it's difficult to verbalize it,
but...
Yeah.
I want to be somebody who is kind of afraid of...
Oh, okay, okay.
By things, you know?
Yeah.
Kind of?
Like, yeah.
Okay, okay.
Don't, don't be like, leaked.
You say that?
Like, namerareru?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Okay.
Yeah, don't say that.
Yeah.
But...
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Who...
Look down on?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Like, have respect.
Oh.
Like, you know, I want to be a very, like, friendly atmosphere.
Yeah.
Be all that.
But at some, in certain, like, level, I'm not sure, like...
Like, you want to keep that...
Yeah.
Yeah.
Sort of like...
Like a, you know, the boss of that team.
That's...
Just make sure that they don't cross any lines.
Yeah, yeah.
Right?
Like, you set your boundaries.
Right, right, right.
And you gotta make them follow it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
But I'm not, I don't know how.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I don't have any plans, though.
Do you think that it depends on the parent how yancha the child gets?
Or is it DNA?
Like, is it in them?
Or is it how they're raised?
Yeah, that's a good question.
Yeah.
But parents is very important.
I mean, the environment.
Yeah.
Is, I think...
Well, I don't...
I think both are the seeds.
Yeah.
But I think environment is more important.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
Because, you know, in some cases, you adopt it from a different, you know...
Oh, yeah.
That's right.
And then you raise it in your family's manner.
So, yeah.
I don't know how it actually is going to be when I actually get a child.
But, like, my plan right now is to go for, like...
Like, I would love to be the chill dad.
Chill dad.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Chill dad, but, like...
But on moments where you have to really tell them the lesson, like, I would just...
I would be very serious about it.
I would not want to yell.
Yeah.
I would like to have a conversation, hopefully.
Yeah.
And if that doesn't work, like, I would sort of provide them with a demerit if they do not follow.
Okay.
And I would follow up, actually follow up on the demerit if they do not follow up on their rules.
For example, like, no video games or something.
Yeah, I see.
I see.
Yes.
That's your plan.
That is my plan.
Yeah.
True.
We have to think about those plans to prepare for one day, you know?
For one day, right?
When we have kids.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Because kids will be very kids.
Oh, yeah.
They're innocent.
Yeah.
They don't know nothing and just do whatever they want.
Right.
We have to, you know, please them, right?
That's true.
That's a...
Ooh.
That's a difficult task.
Big job, yeah.
Difficult task, yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
All right.
Thanks for listening, guys.
Thank you.
Bye-bye.
