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Welcome to Kevin's English Room Podcast!
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Yes, please.
It's a bit cold here.
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Are we done? All done with Krispy Kreme energy?
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Love you.
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What is wrong with my throat today? I've been getting a lot of the...
Yeah.
I mean, loving yourself is just... I think it's a very important part of, like, finding happiness in you.
I feel like that's the only way you'd find happiness is to, like, accept yourself, love yourself,
and not comparing yourself with other people.
Yeah.
I mean, I've thought long and hard about this topic.
You know, this goes back to, like, quitting my job of, like, accepting myself for who I am, right?
Yeah.
Like, wanting to, like, find happiness for myself, like, that's right for me.
That was all part about self-love.
Mm-hmm.
I feel like we should embrace it, like, very important.
And I feel like, I mean, it's not narcissistic at all.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Like, that's different from narcissistic.
Narcissistic is more like, "Oh, my God, I look so fucking sexy."
Yeah.
That's different.
Like, loving yourself for who you are is not narcissistic.
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It's accepting who you are and, like, being able to live proudly.
Yeah.
So, that's different.
I mean, I think that's healthy, very, and it's the fastest way to be happy, I feel like.
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Great.
Did you do something special or, like, typical for...
So, one thing that I have is, like, I feel I default into thinking that everybody has their own problems.
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And, like, so when I go to social media, like what she said of, like, "Okay, oh, my God, this person has, like, this glorious life," or, like, "This person has, like, this shiny life."
It's like everybody has a problem for themselves and, like, they've got their own problems, right?
Yeah.
Like, it's not...
What you see on social media isn't everything.
They're just only showing the bright side of life.
Yes.
Like, you know, they may... Like, the happiest-looking guy on Instagram may have a deep family problem.
Yeah.
Their children could be in the hospital, right?
It's possible, right?
You never get to know what that person is going through, so, like, it's very irrelevant.
Like, it's incomparable.
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You can't compare the pictures on Instagram with your life because it's just at a different angle.
Like, it's too different, right?
It doesn't even make sense to compare side by side.
It's... Right?
Yeah.
So, another thing I remind myself is, like, no one cares about you.
Like, everyone is really busy caring about themselves and how they look, right?
That, like, it really wouldn't... Like, let's say that I'm worried about how I'm being seen, right?
Like, then I go into, like, position of, like, everyone else that I think that are judging me,
the people that I think are judging me, they all have their own problems that they want to take care of.
Yeah.
And they don't... They don't...
Okay, let's say that I have a pimple on my face.
Okay.
Right? I care. Like, "Oh, my God, I'm embarrassed of this pimple on my face."
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But, like, I also go into this zone of, like, they have different problems that they want to hide
or, like, that they want to take care of.
Like, they don't... They don't have that... They don't have the time or, like, the energy of, like,
"Oh, my God! Kevin has a pimple on the face!"
Yeah.
Like, we should, like... Like, they don't... It's not... It doesn't make sense for that to play out.
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Yeah.
Because they're all just worried about themselves.
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Do you get what I'm saying?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I do. I do.
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And that makes it easier, I think.
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And I think it's true.
That's true. Yeah.
I don't think it's just... I don't think this is just a mentality thing. I think it's just... I think it's reality.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right.
When they... When people go on their first date, the only thing that I see in them is, like,
"Oh, my God, do I look okay or not?"
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Like, they never talk about, "The other guy looked kind of, like, too... I don't know, like, nervous."
And, like, the conversation wasn't smooth. They always go back to, like, "It was probably me."
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Like, "I was too nervous, so I wasn't able to, like, do this well."
Yeah. True.
So it's just... I mean, there you see it.
Like, they're worried about themselves more than the other person.
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So...
Right.
It wouldn't make sense to just care about that too much.
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True.
Right, right, right.
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So, she says that...
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So what do you think about this? Do you agree with that? Or...
There's two sides, I feel like. I mean, there's one side where, like...
Yeah, I mean, it's culturally relevant to say that, you know, the United States, they teach kids to be, like,
be proud of who they are.
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You know, to have their own opinion and, like, express how they feel.
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Parallel to that, there's also, like, this insecurity problem.
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Like, they're not... They may be confident, like, at an angle, but at the same time, they're just as vulnerable.
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They're just as susceptible to other people's opinions as well.
Oh.
And there's a whole insecurity issue as well.
Oh, yeah.
So, it's not that simple of, like, America, confidence, alpha, kind of like...
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It's not like... It's deeply insecure.
Okay.
It's deeply... It's very, very... vulnerability, like, mental vulnerability.
Okay.
Yeah.
Okay.
That's what I want to say to France, like, from how you talk and how you explain.
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Like, people there are more... They're dealing with insecurity problems better than America or Japan.
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What do you think about that?
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Yeah, maybe.
Well, I don't... You know, I've never spent time, like, school life in the United States, so I'm not sure about the reality.
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It's kind of difficult for me to compare the reality, but at least I can compare with Japan, to France.
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And, yeah, of course it's not zero.
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Of course they are, like... But, true.
People kind of don't care about other people.
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It's what they basically do.
Like, yeah.
Do you think they're happy?
Yeah.
Basically, like, basic level of happiness is higher.
Yeah.
And happy.
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It's what... It's difficult to measure the happiness, but at least, like, they don't care about other people.
Like, they do their own things.
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Yeah.
So there are so many, like, for example, like, small shops by their own.
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Like, they don't care about, like, the... whatever.
Right.
They just open a new store for themselves.
Right.
Just, you know, vending what they love.
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You know.
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Even in school, yeah, they don't actually care about that much about other people.
I see.
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So I think that's education, I guess, in France.
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Yeah.
Right.
Do your thing.
Like, mind...
Right.
...mind your own business.
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Yeah.
So sometimes a bit, like, called sometimes.
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Because you need to explain things to your problem to other people to solve it.
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You need...
It's always you who, you know, should claim it, should say it.
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Yeah.
So that's a difficult point.
Because in Japan, we kind of care about other people.
Right.
So that's why, you know, friends can notice you.
Hey, are you okay?
Or like, you know, you don't need to say things, but they kind of notice the problem.
That's a good thing in Japan.
It's got its own ups and downs.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, but I enjoyed the atmosphere in France.
I loved that.
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I think what I found interesting was, like, a lot of Japanese people find they have this
image of, like, the American people as, like, they're more happier, they're more confident,
they self-love more.
But, like, to me, I think the Japanese people are just as happy as the American people.
Or should I say the American people are just as unhappy as the Japanese people?
Like, they're just as, like, not confident or, like, not just as insecure as Japanese
people?
Or should I say it the other way?
Like, I don't know which position I should frame this, but, like, it's not that different,
I thought.
Like, to the Japanese people, America feels more alpha, but, like, it's actually not that
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- it's not directed to happiness or, like, it's not leading to, like, solving the insecurity
or anything.
I thought it was a separate problem.
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Thanks for listening, guys.
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