2022-10-31 1:06:36

#47【なんでわざわざ結婚するの?】Why Does People Choosing Not to Marry 🇯🇵

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Hitai amazing people! *English below

タイトルに反してロマンチックな話になりました。

全世代において多様な生き方を尊重する価値観が増している中で、結婚しなことを選ぶ人も多いそう。
そもそも結婚制度って何のためにあるんだっけ?
なんでいつも女性の社会進出が理由にあがってきてそれに女性がモヤモヤさせられるわけ?

江戸〜大正時代の庶民たちの結婚は、夫婦別姓であり、ほとんどの夫婦が共働き(銘々稼ぎという)でした。何より、夫婦別財であり、要するに、明治民法が制定されるまでの日本人庶民の結婚とは、限りなくお互いが精神的にも経済的にも自立したうえでのパートナー的な経済共同体という形に近かったそうです。
それが明治民法により、庶民の結婚も「家制度」「家父長制度」が取り込まれることになり、主に妻の経済的自立と自由が奪われることになります。夫は外で仕事、妻は家事と育児という夫婦役割分担制が始まり今のような「あるべき夫婦の規範」として確立したそう!

でた、明治維新。

今はそれに加え恋愛結婚が当たり前になったから、愛と結婚制度がごっちゃになってわけがわからなくなっている?

“Now that the idea behind the Japanese family has changed, marriage is no longer seen as a safety net to guarantee a stable life.” To achieve gender equality in society, Japan needs to create an environment where women can become economically independent or receive career education when they are young. - The Asahi Shinbun-

I guess Japanese people still have the ideal of being married to raise their happiness level, yet the reality of the government and society has not changed better for our generation..?
We believe that everyone pursuing "love" in their own ways.

<References>

「増える独身」と「4割に迫る単身世帯」の実情とは「あえて結婚しない」ことを選ぶ人たちの増加

100年前の日本人が「全員結婚」できた理由「恋愛結婚」が9割の現代は離婚率も増加

'Waste of time': Why young Japanese are choosing to not get married

More Japanese people choose to remain single, report shows

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00:01
What's up amazing people, this is IYASASA RADIO by Akane and Minami.
In this radio, we are going to talk about random topics in Okinawan, Japanese and English.
【Japanese】
The Nomura Research Institute's questionnaire survey of 10,000 consumers
has tracked consumer trends in Japan every three years since 1997.
However, happiness and life satisfaction are increasing.
According to the National Institute of Population and Social Security Research,
the total number of households in Japan increased from 51.84 million in 2010 to 53.33 million in 2015.
As of 2018, the institute predicted that the number of households would increase to 54.11 million by 2020.
However, according to the results of the national census conducted in 2020,
the total number of households was 55.72 million, greatly exceeding the forecast value.
The large increase in the number of households is due in particular to the increase in single-person households.
The number of single-person households has continued to increase at the pace of around 1.5 million to 2 million every five-year survey year of the national census.
According to the Research Institute's 2018 forecast,
the number of single-person households is expected to increase further by around 2030,
and it was estimated that the percentage of single-person households will reach about 40% by around 2040.
Considering that the annual actual figure is already 38%, you can see how the number of single-person households in Japan is increasing.
The reason why the rapid increase in the rate of never married women after 2010 is that the equal employment opportunity law was enacted in 1986,
and it has been 25 years since then.
The women in the bubble generation who graduated from graduate school in 1986 became around 50 years old in 2010.
In other words, it is thought that women are becoming more active at work and have options other than getting married and starting a family,
03:07
which is the reason for the tendency to marry later and not to get married.
Now that I can protect myself and have the strength to live a full life without getting married, I can choose not to get married.
That's why the number of people who don't dare to get married has increased.
The average happiness level of unmarried women in their 40s increased from 60.1 in 2009 to 60.3 in 2018 and to 66.5 in 2021.
Indicating the high rise in happiness among unmarried women.
Women in their 30s and 50s show similar trends.
The increasing number of people who dare not choose to get married is thought to be leading to an increase in the level of happiness among never married people.
In the 2018 survey, the values that it is better to get married, especially those in their 40s, decreased significantly.
But in the 2021 survey, the values that it is better to get married, including those in their 60s, values that respect diverse ways of life are increasing among all generations.
With regard to the conventional family view that marriage is the norm, the change in the view of the parent household will have a greater impact on the child's own views of marriage.
The negative impact of an increase in the number of people who choose not to get married will be large for the country, but it is expected that it will continue to permeate the country as an irreversible change.
In the survey of 10,000 residents of Nomura General Research Institute, the consumer trend in Japan has been following for three years since 1997, but in recent surveys, the degree of happiness and satisfaction in life has increased despite the decline in the sense of success.
Although the population of Japan is decreasing, the number of generations is increasing.
According to the future forecast of the National Institute of Social Insurance and Population Issues, the total number of generations in 2010 was 51.84 million, but in 2015 it was 53.33 million.
And according to the future forecast by the same researcher in 2018, it is expected that the number of generations in 2020 will increase to 54.11 million.
However, according to the results of the national survey conducted in 2020, the total number of generations was 55.72 million, which exceeded expectations.
In particular, the large increase in the number of generations has been influenced by the increase in single-generation.
06:05
Single-generation has been increasing at a rate of 1.5 million to 2 million per survey every five years of the national survey.
According to the forecast by the same research institute in 2018, single-generation is expected to increase further by around 2030, and it is estimated that the single-generation ratio will reach about 40% by around 2040,
but based on the fact that it is already 38% in 2020, you can see how the number of single-generation is increasing in Japan.
The increase in single-generation is probably due to the increase in the average life expectancy of both men and women, and the increase in the average life expectancy of both men and women.
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09:14
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That was the longest sentence ever.
I tried to shortcut the English version, but it was still a lot of numbers.
I was almost out of breath in the middle of the sentence.
You did a good job.
I mean, like, okay, I get it.
Thank you for reading.
Like, people don't wanna...
No, people are choosing not to get married in this era.
Yeah.
記事のタイトルは、増える独身と4割に迫る単身世帯。実情とは、あえて結婚しないことを選ぶ人たちの増加。
So, it's not saying, like, people don't wanna get married.
People are just choosing not to get married.
They don't dare to get married.
Right.
Yeah, and it says, like, 単身世帯 is like a single person living in one house is increasing.
12:08
It's not increasing.
Have increased than before.
Yeah, but we were talking that, like, some people are living together, but they didn't move their 住民票.
That's why.
Or they just live separately and they're just dating.
Yeah, I think so.
Some of them are in that kind of situation, but also single people are increasing. That's why.
Or people just plan to get married in the late ages, 40 or 50とか。
Like, what about in old days, they get married, like, in 20s.
Almost, like, 80 to 90% of people got married in the young age.
I don't know about the percentage exactly, but I guess if we compare it to, like, our parents' generation, then yes.
Yeah, but I think that's true that most of women go to university and they, you know, they graduate and sometimes they go to graduate school and they don't want to get married until they get more stable.
You're talking about, like, our generation.
Like, when it comes to my situation, I went to America and I joined a company and I didn't want to get married at the time.
Like, even I was really in love with the ex.
Even if they asked me to marry, I didn't want to get married because I want to have more career.
You wanted to give a shot to yourself.
That's why maybe, like, 10 years gap must have compared to old days.
I think it's also affected on the development of the technology that we can freeze eggs.
And a lot of people that I know in Tokyo have a baby when in late 30s.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's true.
In the old days, maybe, that's the so-called early birth.
It may still be the case in the text, but it's safe to have a baby in your 30s and 40s.
There's also the development of breastfeeding, so they don't get rushed to get married, right?
And also, like, people, I don't know, they don't make commitment in that young age.
15:01
They have more, like, higher ideal to partner.
Like, they want to have better life.
That's why, like, they have more options than before.
That's why it's difficult to, like, decide to get married with that person.
In this article, it said that
女性40代未婚者の幸福度平均値は2009年で6.1が2021年では6.5に上がってる。
40代とか50代でもいるんだよ。
Enjoying single life and being happy.
確かに。
でもなんか晩婚が進んだから、みんな、みんなメリーしてないから、
it's okay to be single みたいな風潮もありそうじゃない?
特に都会?
あるはず。
If they have friends, then...
And sometimes their friends have kids.
Yeah.
So...
Some people don't really feel that...
When you go to countryside...
They don't need to have their own kids.
A lot of people got married and have kids.
But when you go to, like, Tokyo,
a lot of people are still single,
and they concentrate on their job, working lifestyle.
って感じもする。
確かに。
でももう日本全体でも少子化。
沖縄が一番ね、出生率高いでしょ。
でもこれ、子供のことを考えだすとまた考えがずれてきちゃうけど。
But what if most of people are single?
あ、シングルの人の方が5割以上いくってこと?
Yeah.
Like, getting married is an unusual thing.
あ、逆転したら?
Yeah.
That's weird.
え、結婚してんの?みたいな。
Yeah, that's a weird situation, but...
It must happen in the future.
まあ未来は何が起こるかわからんもんね。
I think it depends on how the government takes it seriously as a 結婚制度。
制度としてのadvantages.
だからなんか、事実婚も多いしさ。
ただ、事実婚もしない、事実上のカップルもいるわけじゃん。
Then it'd be like, what's the point of getting married?
確かに。
If the people around them know that they're a couple, and they're in love,
18:02
and they have moneyとかなったら、
what's the point?って感じになるよね。
だからさ、なんか、
結婚したらお金もらえるとかだったら結婚しようかな、みたいな。
結婚って制度として何百年あるかわかんないけど、
人間が作ったやつじゃん。
制度とか結婚すること自体も
ブランディングされてきたわけじゃない?
ラブラブなカップルを作ることによって。
だから、
例えばさ、
だけど、
だからラブラブな2人が結婚を選ばないっていうのを、
いろんなカップルがそれを選び始めたら、
アカネが言ったフューチャーの話起こるんじゃない?
まあ、シングルじゃないか。
あえて選ばない方がクール。
みたいなトレンド?
トレンド?またトレンド。
事実婚トレンド。
あ、そうそうそうそう。
It's becoming a trend.
That might happen.
ね。
だって今、
夫婦別姓もまだできない。
同性婚もまだできない。
で、
別に、
政治不審。
自民党不審。
日本不審。
日本不審。
曖昧まって、
あり得るよね。
何でもあり得る気がする。
じゃあ、みなみが今からパートナーがいるけど、
結婚別にしなくていいでしょっていう人のフリして言うね。
やめるときも、すこやかなるときも、
誓いますか?
やめるときも、すこやかなるときも、
誓いますか?
But I can be with that person when
やめるときも、すこやかなるときも、
without getting married.
But there is no like
なんていうの?
There is no 証拠。
Evidence of what?
Love?
Yeah.
That document doesn't prove that you guys are in love.
It's better than having that with a...
It's better than having...
It's...
I don't know.
It's better to have it?
Yeah.
As an document produced by the country?
もってないよりは。
Like you are protected by the paper.
If something happens.
21:00
Protected by like what?
By ring, by paper,
but your driver's license and your last name
protect you to keep having healthy relationship
with your husband or partner.
But the ring is you guys buying by yourself,
not the company gives.
That's like a commitment, you know?
Like if you don't commit with anything
and then you will break your rulesとか
Like it's like
結婚してるから
I can manage my like mental thing.
Okay.
I wanna cheat on someoneとか
If I fall in love with someone
but I can't stop that feeling
with my last name and my ringとか
Okay, so how about
I think we're on the same page about like
giving a commitment to that person
that I'm going to love you
for the rest of my life thing
It's the same if I'm choosing not to get married
with my partner, right?
But what you're saying is
But you are watching by, you know, everyone
You are watched by everyone
If you get married
But everyone don't see the document
They don't care the document
And what you said is
Okay, what if your partner have an affair?
And then you feel protected by the law
Because it's illegal to have an affair, right?
But if you're talking about trust the people
Then you don't have to protect it
I mean, if you really love that person
But you can't make sure
If your partner change their mindとか
You can't see the future
I guess
You don't know what's gonna happen
That's why commitment, right?
Sign the paper is more safe
Okay, sign the paper protected you
when the betray happening too
It's better to have no problem kind of things
But if you have a kid
And then your partner cheat on you
And then you're gonna be very angry
And then you don't wanna be with that person forever
And then what's gonna happen?
If you didn't sign up anything
So, according to the marriage law
If you have an affair
And if you love each other
And if your partner have an open relationship
24:03
Then you can't have an affair
And it's illegal
It doesn't make sense, right?
It doesn't
Anyways
We are so strict about love
No, I mean, it doesn't matter
At the personal level
It's about commitment and trusting each other
And then it's just a different way
How you wanna measure the trust level
Or the commitment or loving level
And then you feel protected by
With the document and ring and change the name
And I think some people don't feel that
As an advantage or protection
Changing their name
It's like a lot of people don't wanna do it
I mean, a lot of women nowadays
It's so difficult
The values are falling apart
And I think the current marriage system
Doesn't look beautiful anymore
You know what I mean?
I think we need branding
For what we have now
But I think it doesn't matter if you get married or not
If you dare
Like if you really want to get married
Yeah
With that person, then you should
Because maybe you will die tomorrow
Then why don't you get married with that loving person?
Okay, how about
But if you are not that confident
Okay, so
You love your husband
And what if
Your husband saying that
He doesn't have a commitment for getting married
Let's do Jijitsu-kon
Like I love you
I'm okay with that
Then you won't do it?
Yeah
It's up to the partner
But you want to get married, right?
Rather than wanting to get married
So
What next?
Taking it as a step
Yeah
I'd be pretending like
That person that I don't want to get married
But I want to get married
You don't want to get married?
I want
You want
27:00
Then why don't you?
What does that mean?
No, no
I said the opposite of what Akane said
Okay
I don't want to get married
Are you talking about yourself?
I'm back to myself
Okay
But
If I dare to
In Japan
If I have to choose between Jijitsu-kon
I don't want to explain it to people around me
Now, Jijitsu-kon people
Why did you choose Jijitsu-kon?
You have to take responsibility
Like Haachou
It doesn't matter
If you choose a different form
Even if you choose a different form
The reason why you wanted to be with that person
And so on
The famous person has to take responsibility
Yeah
It's a pain
So if you can overcome that pain
If you have a different commitment
That would be good
Japan is a pain
If you do something different
You get fired
Like, why?
Because
Jijitsu-kon doesn't benefit people
Yeah
And also
Protection
So
Some people feel protected by being their name
Being themselves
Like always
If there's something
You can break up easily
It's safe
Because it's safe
You can be together
You don't know when you'll break up
I can keep loving that person
There are people like that
So
Both of them are
Agree with it
That's okay
Yeah
I don't judge
I think it's important thing is
To talk about
Love
To that person
Like how you love
And I
Also think that
Marriage
The way you think about marriage
It's different
So
We
Love in each other
If it's strong, it's marriage
And
That's like
A beautiful marriage
But
If there's a child
If there's a marriage
It's good for the child
If you're married
You're happy
I don't know if this person loves you
There's a marriage like that
If that keeps you
More happy
And your mental health
If that keeps you
30:01
I think that's good
Yeah
That's what I'm saying
Yeah yeah yeah
There's a lot of marriages
Yeah
So if it's good for each other, it's good
Anything
I think it's not only
Being married
It's about being a couple
Isn't it?
The way of being a couple
Even now
There's a lot of ways
If there's a polyamory
With a lot of people
If there's people
It's an open relationship
And
They're allowed to have a physical
Relationship with other person
Under
Polymory
Polymory
Polynesian
Ponomory
We're still talking
Polyamory
I don't understand polyamory
In my value
Anyway
It's a next level
I can't stop being jealous
Yeah
If your partner
Have sex with somebody else
Are you okay with that?
But I can have
Sex with that person too
I mean we can have threesome too
If it's polyamory
That's so complicated
And I don't wanna do that
I accept every kind of relationship
But it's
Highly highly high maintenance
To have a stable
Polyamorous relationship
It's hard to manage myself
It's hard to manage two people's life
And it's hardest to
Manage three people or four people's
Life at the same time
I've watched that story
On Netflix
You mean, huh?
Maybe
Yeah
That's
The time
When I
Have sex with
Somebody else
Yeah
That's the time
When I have sex with
Somebody else
That's the time
When I get jealous
Yeah
I think
It's like
33:00
What?
It's the same as love
If Akane
Is not interested in a girl
It's the same
Like, huh?
Yeah
Huh?
No, I mean
If Akane
Is interested in a girl
It's not necessary
Right?
No
It's the same
If Akane
Is interested in a girl
It's not necessary
It's the same
It's the difference
Yeah
It's a matter of gender
Yeah
But
I don't know
It's the next level
I think
I'm a very human
I think
I don't understand it
But
I think there are more
Relationships in the future
I think there are more
Relationships
What were you talking about
Earlier?
I'm glad I didn't talk about it
Before Polyamory?
Yeah
I blocked you
I said something
But I forgot
I don't know
Hmm
But
The times have changed
Yeah
It's natural for a family
To change
But
The important thing is
The degree of happiness
It's been mentioned a lot
If the degree of happiness
Is high
Then
If
Everyone is single
And the degree of happiness
Is high
Then
Half of Japan
Will be foreigners
Yeah
So Japan will
Disappear
Japanese will disappear
They will be
Foreigners
I think it's gonna happen
I'm sure
It will
We are not interested in making babies
Yeah
Well
The population
Will decrease
But
Even as a country
If you give birth
They will support you
There is no dramatic change
36:03
There are so many
Carrier women
Carrier women
Has more money
Than
Not carrier women
If you think about it
They are capable enough to have kids
Raise their kids
But they need to produce kids
If you want
Biological baby
With partner
Like men
But they can fuck
Just have a baby
But if we think about
The protection
For that kids
If you think about it
Parents should have two kids
Of course
It's safer to raise them
Financially
Mentally
Everything
If you are rich
You can hire dad
You can hire dad
I don't know if it's capable
You can hire
That role someone
Or you can have partner anytime
It doesn't matter men or women
But if you have another
People or person
If you make your kids to understand
The situation
And kids are happy
I think it's like
If somebody
Is with kids
All the time and take care
And they watch them
Then kids don't
Feel
They are missing
People
And they don't become
Yankee
They don't do stupid things
If you are watching them
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah
Okay
39:13
Yeah
I've heard of it
In Europe
They look so happy
I mean
That's why they are on YouTube
In a popular
Yeah
Even if like
It's like mom and dad
Normal family
But
Some families are not happy
They fight
Each other
With various problems
It's all about
How
How much they
Love their kids
That's what I think
How parents are
One or two
Same sex
How much you love
Your kids
That's how kids
Know how to love people
Yeah
Agreed
I think this era
Or like this
Coming like 50 years era
It's the time to
Reconsider
About love
And
Marriage system
Again
Yeah
Love
Be able to love someone
Yeah
If you know how to love and trust people
Then you can have healthy relationship
With anyone
Even if it's friends
Partner and your family
I think
I'm so confident to be loved
With my family
That's why I know how to love people
Yeah
That's what many people think
If you are lack
Of the love
And you have some issue
Yeah
That's why
Society
Is easy to live
Yeah
But the foundation of
Easy to live society is
Love
42:03
It's like
The rules and then
Government needs to
Like
Manage and organize
The national rules
To
Expand love
And then
The world underestimate
The power of love
The power of love
It's a fundamental
Love issue
For people
And more
Core
Family
I'm watching
But now
More than that
Even if it's a fact
Even if it's a lie
Even if it's homosexual
It's all about
Love
Like that
I think so
Like
What's the point of living
Not pursuing
What is love
I think
People don't understand
What is love
Everyone
Giving them answer
As of that day
And try to
Love someone
Based on my definition
But with
The partner
They
Different kind of love
And then
Thick
Big
Love
In the end
You don't know until you die
Do you understand?
It's like
Where is the end of the universe
I think that's love
But
A certain point of
Lifetime
Yeah
I had some moment that I can feel
Oh this is love
Yeah
And
We can't
Prove it
But it's love
It's a great concept
You can't see it
It's not
A gift
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Or sex
It's something you can't see
And you should appreciate
If you have someone
To love
I think
It doesn't matter who
It is
When did you realize
Love
Me?
When I was a kid
I didn't realize
Maybe when I became an adult
And then
I appreciate my parents
How much
I was loved
I don't know
Maybe I didn't know it was love
From the parents
But I was
Fully took care of
By them
I didn't have any problems
And it was a normal
Life
But it was not normal
For other people
And that's the timing
I knew how much
I was loved
And I was so
Happy
And then
Maybe like
If I have a relationship
With my partner
Like many times
I always love them
Because
We support each other
No matter what happens
To each other
And I feel like
I always have my back
And I always think about them
Something like that
But I think
Family is the most important
Unconditional love
I can feel
I love my partner more than myself
To me
I think
The first time I started thinking about
Love
Was when I had
My first boyfriend
Who was an American guy
So in their culture
They have a step
Of I like you part
To I love you part
So one day
We were having a coffee
At Starbucks
And he was acting
Like a bit nervous
And I was like
I'm gonna say something
And I was like
I get it
I see this a lot in dramas
I love you
He said
I could tell
From his face
It's like a cheesy feeling
But at that time
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I had no idea
And he said to me
Like I love you
So okay
I didn't want to make it awkward
So I need to say
I love you too
I know that feeling
I had
Like I knew
That I liked him so much
Like he's taking care of me
Like in a really good way
I was like
Is that love?
But he said it
So I had to say it
Because it's Japanese
As a courtesy
If he said you don't love me
I can't give you an answer
For that
Right?
Because I don't know
So after that
I went to America
And I talked to
My family
On FaceTime
I said I love you
And they were like
What?
You know
When you say I love you
To your sister
It's like men to women
Men to women?
It's like
It doesn't happen in Japanese
Opposite sex siblings?
Yeah
Opposite sex siblings
And I also
I was jealous that he didn't say
He loves me
But he said it to his family
Who is he?
My ex
At that time
He loved his family
But he didn't say it to me yet
At that time
I was so jealous about it
But he
After that
Did it make sense?
It did make sense
Did you regret about it?
You said it?
It makes you more stable
It makes you more supportive
But
When you say I love you
It's like
It's like
I don't feel like I can trust him anymore
So
At that time
I was the one who said
Who said
That he loves me
And I wasn't the one who initially said
I love you
So
I feel more stable
I was jealous
Of his feeling that
He's in love with someone
Which was me
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But
How can I say
How can I be of him
That I could see
In his eyes
It's so shining
When he looked at me
I knew he really loves me
But
I was happy
And I loved him
But I was jealous
He's not that
In love with someone
He loves someone
So
I knew that
He doesn't love me
I could feel it
His eyes were so shining
I couldn't look at him
So
I was jealous
When I went to America
My friends were in love with my family
I was like
Is he in love with his family?
I started to think about it
And it overlapped
It's like
I really
Don't know
I didn't know
I love my family
Like that
It's like
Practice?
Overlap
Use words
And feel it
Like that
Or shyness
Right?
But
Shyness too
I wasn't aware of it
Until then
Even if I wasn't aware
I was alive
True
I
Didn't look
Looking for love
Until then
But in this family
We don't have it in Japan
But
Like what if
Your parents die tomorrow
And you will regret you didn't say
You love them
But in Japan
It's possible
But they grew up saying
I love you to the family
And then
It's like a normal
Phrase to say
But they told them already
How you feel
Maybe
Regret
Or
Showing love
Hug
I think it's just
The different
Way of process
To show them
Their affection to family member
Or partners
Even if you don't say
I love you everyday
There are people like that
Even Americans
I love you
I love you 100 times
Is it true?
In the morning
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So
Good morning
Right
Good night
But I get it
There are words
So
But
In English
Love
There is a weight
Between L and O
Love
It doesn't sound round
But
I
I love you
Is it because
You are not used to saying it?
I love you
It's easier to say I love you
I don't know how to emphasize
Japanese version of
I love you
For example
Akane
I always thank you
No?
So what is it?
You are precious
It's difficult
Japanese culture
Can't find it
So Akane
When you want to say I love you
Good morning
You can say I love you
But when you really want to say it
Akane
Even if you say I love you
How can you feel it?
I don't like it
So
In English
There is also I love you
If you say I love you
I still say I love you
It's like
In Japanese
I can't express it
I understand
Even when I'm not
With an American
I still say I love you
In letters or messages
I still do it
Because I can't find
The same word
Same level of the word
I love you in Japanese
And also
It makes it weird
For me
In a wedding
It sounds weird
I think
Yeah
Maybe
I use I love you
That's better
That's more refreshing
More familiar
With me
I love you
In letters or text
It has a lot of power
But
In a vocal way
Kana-san
Jim Kana-san
Jim Kana-san
Kana-san
But
In Japanese culture
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It changes to I love you
In dramas
It's like
Did he say I love you yesterday?
But I can get used to it
If I see it a lot of times
That's why I say I love you
It's not weird anymore
I think I should make
I love you more popular in Japan
In Japanese
It's like
I love you in everyday life
Yeah
And
Birthday
I write I love you
On my message card
In American
I love you mom
It's like that
It's a normal exercise
I love you
It's a normal exercise
I love you
It's like that
But I think
It's better to tell
Even if it's a little embarrassing
That way
Even if it's a little embarrassing
I'm happy
I'm happy
It makes your relationship
Very good
I think
Have you ever told your family?
I've done I love you mom
In English version
What is it?
It's funny
It's always mysterious
It's like
In the second half
I talked about love
It changed
But it turned out
In a good topic
At the end
So what is love for you?
As of today
As of today?
As of today
The feeling now
Put them
First
Before you
No matter what
Support
Unconditional
I love that song
Unconditional love
It's better to make it in Japanese
That's so touching
Word for me
Unconditional love
That's the love
Unconditional
That's like my mom and dad
For me
That's like a perfect version
Of love for me
So I
If I can do that to
The people
Then that's the love
I think
They
I clearly see
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They put the family first
At any time
No matter what
I think it's amazing
Rather than
Their own life
They put their children and grandchildren
First
Even if they complain
They do it
Like
Even if
They have trouble
They protect their family
That's kind of thing
It's the love
That's the love
No matter what
I do
No matter what
I support you
You know what I mean?
Unconditional
Like love you no matter what happens
That's the love for me
What about you?
To me
It's like
Let's put the love aside
I think
Love is something that
I and
That person
Is like
Pursuing together
And
For example
It's not just about partners
But
Even with Miyami and Akane
If it's between
Two people
Then
Spending time
Piling up
To make a good work
Partners are the same
Piling up
I don't know what it is
But it's like
I love us
I don't know what it is
But it's their thing
That's what I mean
So I think
Fireworks are
Different from love
Like what Akane said
No matter what happens
It's not like
The moment you feel happy
Is the love
No matter what happens
It's like
Trusting each other
What does that mean?
It's the same as not looking back
Don't make yourself the first
But
They realize
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How much they
Were loved by you
Like after a few years
It takes time
To make
A good love
But
I think I'm the same
With you
Don't look back
No matter how much
I love
That person
The other person
Receives it
And it becomes love
So
You can't do it alone
Yeah
With the people
People's love
Yes
That's so good
Better answer
Better version of answer
Every day
I feel so good
To think about love
Than like
Angerness
Hating people
Loving people
Even if
The other person
Didn't realize it
If you make effort
To love them
And then
It makes you
Grow up
It makes you
Happy too
It's like
Like a parent
Like a rebellious parent
Who loves their child
Your parent
Yeah
And somebody's parents too
That's a normal thing for them
They are normal
That's so like
Huge
I can't even
Describe in words
Indescribable feeling
Yes
That's all I wanna say
Anyways
In Japan
Situation of Japan
A lot of people not choosing to get married
But anyways
I'm hoping that
You know
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You experience
Loving
And love
Someone you love
In your lifetime
Then it's a good life
Fuck the government
That's all for today
Bye
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