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Yes.
And welcome to...
Kevin's English Room Podcast!
Thank you, thank you.
Yeah.
Thanks for that.
No problem.
Wow!
What do you mean?
That is tight!
Sound?
No, literally the string is really tight.
Really?
Yeah, I'm sure this is normal.
Is this an electric guitar?
This one?
Yeah.
Yes, it is.
Damn.
Alright.
Thank you.
Do you play guitar?
I don't!
Okay.
I don't actually.
I don't wanna break your...
But it's for right-handed.
So this is not...
I'm not holding it the right way then.
Yeah, yeah.
Is this the right way?
That's the right way.
But you know Paul McCartney?
Yeah?
He's left-handed.
And he can play the guitar...
Wow!
With the left-handed?
Yeah, like the opposite side like this.
Damn!
You know.
Like this?
Yeah, like this.
Damn!
The chord shape, like the finger shapes,
will be completely different.
It's the opposite.
It's mirrored.
Yeah.
Damn.
Amazing.
Yeah.
Alright.
Okay?
Okay.
So, so, so.
Today's question.
Yes, today's question.
If you had to choose one...
Sorry.
If you had to choose one...
One.
A girlfriend who is lazy.
Okay.
Two.
A girlfriend who doesn't lose.
That's an easy question for me.
Okay.
Time.
Okay.
Yeah, time.
Why is that?
Can you elaborate that, please?
Time...
Mm-hmm.
Is money.
Yeah.
But like...
When you get married,
we do share time and we do share money.
But I feel like time is still a little bit separated.
Like I feel a little bit of an independency within each other,
even if you're married.
Like...
Mm-hmm.
If she's late for something,
I still have that time to use it on something else.
Maybe use a smartphone to do something else while waiting for her.
If money, if she uses it, it's completely...
It's gone, right?
There is no replacing it on my side, on my end.
Yeah.
It's just...
So it's...
Oh, you said you choose the...
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What did I say?
Did I say...
Did I choose the wrong...
Did I say the wrong one?
So you choose a girlfriend who doesn't lose to money, right?
I would choose a girlfriend who doesn't lose to time.
Okay, okay.
Okay.
That's better for me.
Okay.
I'd rather date a girlfriend who doesn't lose to time over...
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
A girlfriend who doesn't lose to money.
I like the girlfriend who doesn't lose to time more.
Okay, okay.
Did you get what I'm saying?
Okay.
Okay.
Gotcha.
So, okay.
You get what I'm saying?
Okay.
You pick the girlfriend who doesn't lose to time.
Is better for me.
Is better to you.
Right.
Okay, okay.
Yeah.
That's the reason why.
Okay, okay.
What do you think?
Like me too.
Like, I personally, I don't care about much the time.
Because you don't rush.
I mean, I have so many things that I can do by myself.
So, if we do like, "Siji ni machausai."
And if she like, one hour, then I'll be completely fine.
I can read.
I can study.
I can do whatever, whatever I want.
So, no problem for me.
Do you think that once we get married, you share all the money with your wife?
Right.
So, that was...
I went there too fast a little.
Right.
I think that we have to share everything.
I do feel like it's fair to separate our wallets.
And like, yeah.
So, I actually, that's a good point too.
Like, there's a way of not sharing the wallets.
Like, if you don't share the wallets, she can use however much money she wants with her own money.
Right.
So, in that case...
But you know, I'm really kind of a catchy kind of person.
Like, I'm really kind of careful with money.
So, like, I feel like I would be more irritated with being irresponsible for money over being irresponsible for time.
I think I'm like really patient with time here.
Like, I really don't mind being, when somebody is late for something.
Like, that doesn't really get me at all.
I can kind of deal with it.
So...
But like, money becomes a little bit more...
I don't know.
It's...
Like, hmm.
Like, you're going to share houses, right?
That's kind of sharing money.
Yeah.
Don't you think?
Like...
You know, I can't really make a good point here.
But...
Do you kind of get the feel, like a gist of what I'm trying to say here?
Hmm.
Like, I don't know if it's completely matched with what you were trying to say.
But I have my own time.
Yeah?
So, if she's late for something, that doesn't mean I lose my...
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I mean, I lost my time.
I still have my time.
Yeah?
But if it wasn't money, like if she wastes and makes her money gone, then that means she lost something.
Mm-hmm.
And maybe if we're a partner, I will have to be, like, putting my mind on that, maybe.
Mm-hmm.
Right, right, right.
And I feel like there's also the fact that we're fairly non-materialistic.
So, like, we don't really spend money on things, right?
Like, clothes, fashion, gadgets.
So, especially you.
Like, I feel like more than me, you don't spend that much money on expensive items.
So, like, so maybe that could lead to you overvaluing more on time over money.
Yeah.
Maybe.
Right, right.
Hmm.
It could be.
True.
Yeah.
Like, have you ever dating with someone who uses so many...
I've dated somebody who has a rich parent.
Oh, okay, okay.
And I did feel a little bit of a gap in the way the money is spent.
But it's not to the extreme where you'd call that person a rohi, or things like that.
Okay.
It's just I did feel like a small gap with the way she interprets money.
Mm-hmm.
And, yeah.
Hmm.
Have you?
Uh...
No, I don't like these people, so...
You kind of feel it.
Yeah, before that.
Before you even started dating them.
Yeah.
Hmm.
But that's a good question, too.
Mm-hmm.
We have to think carefully about that when, like, I mean, after we married, and how do we...
The wallets, right?
Yeah, wallets.
How are we going to separate our wallets and stuff like that?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Should we separate that, or...
Like, what's the merit of combining them?
So far, I don't find any merit of combining them.
But, you know, think about if you have your kid.
Right, kids.
Like, who's going to take care of them, right?
Right.
One of them has to be a stay-at-home mom, therefore cannot have an income, therefore needs to share a wallet.
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Of course, of course.
You're never able to say that, "Oh, sorry, this is my money."
Right.
So you can't buy anything.
Right, you're right.
So, like, how are we going to...
You know how a lot of people do, like, the husband is the worker, and the mother is the household wife,
and the husband is the "okkozukai sei," and the mother holds the wallet?
What do you think about that?
Like, that's... what's the merit of that, do you think?
Like, then I don't have to take time for money, like, paying rent, suido, daigatsu, daigankudai, whatever.
It's all she takes care of, is that what that means?
But like, you're an okkozukai sei, so even if you want to buy something, you're going to have to wait several months and save up, right?
Yeah, but, right, that doesn't happen often to me, so...
Because you don't want a lot of things, right?
Right, right.
Like, for me, it's not that important.
But, right, it's not free, completely free, so, economically, like, you're not free.
So...
It's hard to imagine, but...
What do you think about that?
Well, yeah, I...
You know what, I'm at a stage in life where I don't want kids at all.
So I really haven't imagined what I should do when I have children.
Yeah, me too.
But like, I don't think... I don't know...
Maybe when children is there and one of us has to commit full of our... our full time into kids,
maybe that is the best way of dealing with money.
That... maybe. I don't know.
Yeah, well, like, it depends completely how she thinks.
Right.
Like, but at least for the... the really beginning moment, I mean, she has to go to the hospital, be at the hospital, like...
And she physically cannot work, then...
Right.
We have to... I mean, of course we do share.
Yeah.
That's the only way.
Right.
But after that, maybe I can do a little "cosodate" maybe?
Yeah, maybe, yeah.
So that she can go to the office maybe?
So, it will be completely depending on how she thinks, like...
Right.
But I'm open to give my wallet to her and getting okozuka from her if she is enough.
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If that's what she wants.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And if she's a trustable person.
Right, right. That's all. That's all.
Yeah.
It's trusting.
Yeah.
Alright. Thanks for listening, guys.
Bye.
