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Welcome to Kevin's English Room Podcast!
Yes!
That was a little... timing. A little off.
But anyways.
Okay.
This is from Asumama-san.
Asumama-san.
Arigatou gozaimasu.
Arigatou gozaimasu.
Kevin-san, Yama-chan-san, Kage-chan-san, konnichiwa.
Konnichiwa.
Konnichiwa.
That was five people!
I remember these.
Asumama desu. It's always fun to hear.
Arigatou gozaimasu.
I was listening to the extra seaweed episode the other day and I wanted to eat the Budokan ramen that I used to eat when I was a student.
The three pieces of seaweed were soaked in soup and wrapped in rice.
Wow! I like that.
I'd like to try the two of you's recommended ways of eating.
I'm probably the same generation as you guys, but I found out that I'm pregnant with my second child today!
Wow! Congrats!
Congrats, congrats!
I've been watching and listening to KER content lately and I've been spending my days happily, so I think that's why you guys came.
I'm looking forward to seeing how the relationship between the couple's lives and the child's life changes as their family grows.
I'd like to ask you guys, what kind of ideal couple are you?
Are you a loving couple like you were when you were dating? Or are you a calm couple?
I have the impression that there are more loving couples overseas than in Japan.
How was it around you two?
It's been a long time, but please take care of yourself and stay safe. I'll continue to support you.
Ah! Thank you.
Well, congrats for the baby!
Yeah!
It's a really hard question.
It is, actually.
What kind of ideal couple are you?
I don't think I can give you a definite single answer.
The topic is too wide, I feel like.
But I can give you bits of things that I feel, the characteristics that I feel.
The beauty of understanding the other person without the need of communication.
Okay.
Is that something you call in Japanese "anmoku no naka"?
Yes.
Like, the other person is going through this, and then the partner will be like, "Oh, he's probably going to feel this way."
Or, "He's probably going to need this."
So, I will act beforehand without the other person asking for it.
The beauty of that is really the beauty of a partnership, I feel like.
Wow.
It's kind of surprising to me because, like, for Japanese people like me, most of the Western country people always speak something if you feel anything.
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Not like sensing without saying, but just communicating and letting them know anything about.
So, it's kind of surprising that you say that.
Well, I do have a very... I do love the Japanese...
I did come here because I love the Japanese personalities, the nuances in the relationships with the people.
So, I do find that a very beautiful thing.
Oh, nice. Nice, nice.
So, I guess not something like party partnership.
No, I don't think so.
Like, I don't...
I love that it was great, but I don't think I'm going to need him 24/7.
Like, I feel like...
I feel like a partner would be...
understanding what the other person is comfortable with and providing it to them, whether that's what you want or not.
That's a good way of saying it.
That's the most important thing to you.
Yeah, I just thought through this for three minutes, right?
After listening to the message.
So, I don't know. I don't think that's the best or the definite answer.
But so far, that's on my mind.
Nice.
Anything on your mind?
Oh, I love your answer.
I do agree with you.
That's very important.
In other words, that's trust.
Yes.
Oh, yeah.
That's important.
For me, Fufu no Nisou no Fufu is...
At the same time, I want her to be independent.
And I want her to have her own life.
Not only my partner, but her own life, her life, working life, as a lady, as a woman.
We trust each other in having time together, but at the same time, be independent.
Having her own life.
That's my dissonant.
Yeah.
Fufu, I guess.
Yeah.
Half agree.
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Half agree, half not.
I wouldn't really mind if she has her another enjoyment of it.
I think...
I don't know.
I have not found an answer for that.
Okay.
So, I did say half agree, half not, but I don't know, actually.
Well, of course, I'm not sure.
Yeah.
I've never married.
I've never...
Exactly.
You've never had the experience of marriage, right?
I never know.
We never know.
Yeah.
We're not sure, but I'm imagining.
Yes, imagining.
Yeah.
So far.
This is another imagination that I have that's probably like too naive, but I think the beauty
of being an adult is doing something childish.
Okay.
Let me hear that.
So, like, enjoying doing something childish, being able to enjoy doing something childish
with a partner is something really...like, I feel like that's something you can enjoy
from the heart.
Wouldn't that be fun, you think?
Yeah.
To be able to do something childish and laugh your asses off with your partner.
True.
Right?
True, true, true, true.
Like maybe going to a convenience store and just start playing tag.
Yeah.
That's fun.
Yeah.
That's childish.
Yeah.
That's kind of inappropriate.
Yeah, but that's fun.
That's fun, right?
It's foolish and stupid and fun.
Exactly.
Those stupid things that being doing something stupid and enjoying them.
I feel like that's a beauty of being an adult.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I agree with you that.
Yeah.
Not only with the partner, but with friends.
Right.
Exactly, exactly.
In general, with everybody else.
True.
Like in certain steps being adult, being getting...being adult, we always try to be acting like an
adult, which means be polite, not doing stupid things, but maybe going to the expensive places.
Yeah.
Gorgeous luxury places and you're getting adult.
Yeah.
But after that steps, you get a little more older, then you can get to that situation that
you can enjoy foolish things.
Yeah.
Exactly.
Yeah, that's beautiful.
It's fun, right?
Yeah.
True.
So you want to be playing something fool?
Well, someone who...true.
Yeah, that's you're right.
Someone who would enjoy that.
Okay.
Would be a good like Riso, I guess.
Yeah.
Okay.
What about what about...
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What about someone saying, "No, no, I'm not.
I'm doing bad."
But okay.
Someone, some partner that's saying, if you start something stupid and, "Hey, stop Kevin.
No."
Like for real?
No, not for real.
It's just total things.
Like not like really pissed?
Not at all.
Not at all pissed?
Well, a little bit maybe 2% maybe, but...
And after that, she also stopped playing with you.
Oh, that's good.
Is that good?
Yeah, that's good.
Okay.
What do you mean?
What?
You don't like that?
Is that not good?
I like it.
Oh, you like it?
Yeah.
Like, especially when you start joining you right afterwards.
That's really cute.
Yeah, that's cute.
You're saying to stop it, but you're joining him.
That's really cute.
Yeah.
Yeah.
If you like that.
Yeah, I like that.
But yeah, I know where you're coming from.
I feel you.
I feel like I know where you're coming from.
Yeah.
I agree.
Yeah.
I agree.
That's cute.
Yeah.
So maybe you like outgoing people.
I mean, no, not the calm and cool.
But fun, happy, outgoing maybe.
I don't know because calm people can also do foolish things, right?
Of course.
You never know.
You never know.
Right?
You never know what's deep inside who they are.
Right.
Right.
You could be like a really outgoing person but doesn't do has like a policy of not doing
foolish thing.
Yeah.
In public or something like that.
Right.
Right.
Yeah.
Okay.
Right.
Wow.
Well, as Mama-san she's already have as kid.
She's always as Mama-san.
Mama-san.
Right.
Right.
She's more adult.
Experienced.
Experienced.
Yeah.
Than both of us.
Right.
I wonder what her ideal marriage would be like or ideal couple would be like.
Yeah.
And I guess she's asking this question means that she's still like trying to find the and
building the relationship.
True.
Trying to be better partner.
True.
Which is great.
Yeah.
So I guess our journeys will be the same.
Never be the.
Right.
You still improve on it.
Yeah.
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Even after you get married.
Yeah.
I like that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
All right.
That was 10 minutes.
Okay.
Thanks for listening guys.
