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Welcome back to another episode of Kevin's English Room Podcast!
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Uh.
Alright.
Alright, let's go man.
So.
What do we have?
What?
What do we have?
It's a kind of...
Easy...
Phone call.
Easy phone call!
I mean, classic.
Classic.
Phone call.
Like the uh, kuro-denwa, yeah?
Yeah.
Okay.
From Bobo-chan.
Bobo-chan.
Thank you, Bobo-chan.
She's been a nice, closest friend.
Nice, closest?
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Has been, has been like more than 50 years.
And you're 26 years old?
Yeah.
Nice.
I like, I love how the calculations all works.
Yeah, okay.
Mm-hmm.
So.
Uh.
You...
You...
YouTube.
YouTube?
Podcast.
Okay.
It's in...
'Cause it's written in English.
So I'm not good at pronouncing, right?
Right, it's in English, right.
I see.
YouTube.
Podcast.
It's in Japanese.
Well, by the way.
Yeah?
How do you feel like, like...
You...
Even if it's written in you, like English way, like YouTube or Twitter.
Mm-hmm.
You pronounce Twitter or YouTube.
Right?
Mm-hmm.
How do you, how do you feel when, when, when people pronounce that as Twitter or YouTube?
Um, it feels a little bit unnatural though.
Because like you're speaking in Japanese.
Yeah.
And you're suddenly putting in an American accent.
Right.
That seems like the flow kind of really, really gives it an unnatural flow.
So even if it's written in English.
Yeah.
With the alphabets, it does, I would still read it in a Japanese way.
Okay.
Um, especially, you know, for logos and brands.
It's a, it's a Koyumeshi.
So like.
Yeah.
Whether if it's written in Japanese or English, it's still the same perception to me.
Okay.
So it really doesn't change how it's written, especially when it's a Koyumeshi.
Uh-huh.
Yeah.
Okay.
Because actually I found that that's a really thing that makes you, like sounds like really Japanese, like native guy.
Uh-huh.
Because, you know, some people from abroad cannot pronounce those kind of word.
The Japanese way.
The Japanese way.
Like, you know, like, what?
Piano.
Like piano.
Uh-huh.
Cannot say piano in Katakana way.
Uh-huh.
But piano for them.
Okay.
Or radio.
Right, right, right.
I've really mastered how to blend in with the Japanese culture.
Yeah, it's kind of surprising that you mastered all these things.
I have.
Like avocado.
Avocado.
Right, right.
You know.
Right.
There are some times that I still can't really fully translate it to Japanese version.
Oh, really?
But I mostly I can.
Yeah, right.
You sometimes make a mistake.
Like coupons, right?
I say coupon.
Yeah, yeah.
For coupons.
Sometimes you make a mistake.
03:01
Right, sometimes.
Yeah.
But not occasionally.
You really got to do that.
Yeah, yeah.
So, sorry.
Whenever I track again.
So, YouTube podcast.
I always enjoy watching your podcast.
Thank you.
I have a question for the podcast.
Okay.
息子の受験(老人する)も失敗を通して、自分が世間体や固定観念に縛られていることに気づきました。
Wait, can you say that again?
What was that?
Okay.
相談です。
息子の受験(老人する)も失敗を通じて、通して、自分が世間体や固定観念に縛られていることに気づきました。
Okay, I understand that.
Okay?
Yeah.
子供にとって、良い親じゃなかったなと、自問自答しています。
ケビンさん、山ちゃんさんのご家族は、お二人の試験や挑戦の時、どんな風に関わられていましたか?
素敵なお二人のご両親、きっと温かいお人柄なのでしょうね。
長々と失礼しましたが、お答えいただけましたら幸いです。これからも応援しています。
ポポちゃん
That's some really kind words.
Yeah.
That's a really kind way of asking the question.
Right.
You know?
Like, I felt that you already are such a nice,
warming, heartwarming person already with the question that you asked it.
Right. Right.
I'm really interested in how your parents take care of that.
You talking to me?
Yeah, I'm talking to you, man.
Oh.
Kind of,
let me go to anywhere.
Let me do anything.
Uh-huh.
You know, they don't,
uh, kind of say much to me.
They don't,
right.
But they still see me from a distance,
and always ready to support me.
Uh-huh.
Did you notice those things by actions or like a certain words that you were being told?
Or how did you realize that?
Like when I,
for example, like,
actually I didn't realize when I was a little kid,
but recently I realized that they have been,
you know, kind of keeping distance from me in a really good way,
so that not interrupt me doing or making mistakes,
or making, you know, some,
some child, child.
Childish mistakes.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And sometimes I do make a mistake and made a mischoice,
but they, they kind of,
not interrupting me too much.
Okay.
But when I was, you know, like struggling and had no answer,
06:00
Uh-huh.
I went to my parents and mom and dad and mom,
I have a so done.
Uh-huh.
And what I feel is like this,
or what I think is this,
and I don't know which way to go,
or what I know, don't know which way to choose,
or what, what should I do?
Uh-huh.
And they will like answer me.
Okay.
And they were already ready.
Okay.
For that questioning from me.
Uh-huh.
Because they actually know about all the things.
Uh-huh.
And certainly they had a similar experience to me.
Uh-huh.
And yeah, that's what they, their stance.
Uh-huh.
And it hasn't been changed for, like still, it's the same.
Uh-huh.
They don't like kind of bother me at all,
but if I ask them for help, they will, you know.
Uh-huh.
So recently I found that they are really supportive actually.
Uh-huh.
Being very supportive quietly.
Uh-huh.
Yeah.
Respecting your harmony.
Yes, yes, yes.
Uh-huh.
Like for example, when I asked them to start learning piano,
they were like, like first of all, they were like, why?
Uh-huh.
And you know, so in that context, they treated me like a human,
like even I was a child, but kind of a man.
Uh-huh.
And why is the reason and do you really want to do this?
You know.
And I, if I don't have any answer to that,
they won't be allowed me to start that because I haven't ready,
but if I have the answer and I'm ready, if I was ready,
they let me go anywhere.
They let me do anything.
They kind of never stopped me on my decision.
So that's what they, how they treated me and treats me right now.
It's pretty heartwarming.
Really?
Yeah.
I like it.
Yeah.
What about you?
For my parents, I felt like, similar, but I feel like my parents has been always in hindsight
from the child's perspective, felt like they were taking care of my mental health.
09:04
Okay.
How I felt like the wellbeing of myself being through different cultures,
you know, moving through different countries and everything,
they knew that it was a struggle for me during, you know, these shishunki ages and stuff like that.
So when I first spoke to them about me wanting to be in Japan,
they were extremely supportive.
They were like, okay, so if you want to position yourself in Japan for the rest of your life,
then maybe we should start doing this at an early stage.
So why not instead of starting Japan from university, let's start from high school.
So you're ready, you know, the faster, the better.
So, okay, why not?
Let's just get ready now.
And so they were really supportive.
And because we were a family that moved a lot, in hindsight,
I felt like they really try to take care as to the best of their abilities.
Because like, they looked for schools that accepted, that really didn't have any possible bullies.
Like they didn't, I went to a first, I went to a public school for the middle school.
They avoided making me go to a public school because they were,
I think they were trying to not get me bullied or anything.
Like I was an Asian kid, you know, I was a new here.
They tried to take care of me in the best way as possible from the parent side.
And they talked to the principal saying that, oh, he's not used to here.
Is that okay? Like, is that acceptable here?
And they're like, yeah, sure.
Like some of the schools like, okay, maybe this isn't going to work out for you.
Then they transferred to a different city.
Oh, really?
Right. They looked at different districts and then looked for a school that's suitable for me.
They found one, they settled in on the place that's accessible to the school.
And all those efforts, I feel like, inside site that were really a manifestation of their like supportiveness, you know,
towards my health and wellbeing, like mentally and physically.
But yeah, I think that was, looking back at it now, that was like a big factor of how they raised me.
Yeah.
I feel like, yeah.
Well, that's nice too.
Yeah, it's very nice.
Well, yeah, I can easily imagine that how difficult, like if you have a little kid and have to transfer so many cities and, you know,
Right.
over the countries and cultures.
Right.
So have to think about for your kids and yeah.
Exactly.
That's really nice, huh?
12:01
So what was her worries from the email?
Her worries was...
Ah...
Through the exam, I realized that I was bound by the fixed concept.
So I think that's not good for kids.
Yeah.
What do you have to say to that?
Hmm...
You know, it's a little, might be out of track from this question, but recently I'm thinking and I kind of found that my parents
are kind of a man and a woman.
You know what I mean?
I've been thinking that they are kind of perfect, kind of, you know, can do anything, know anything.
Right.
And every time they do perfect decision and they know all the answers.
That's what I've been thinking when I was little, little, but recently I found that they are like same to me,
like kind of living their own lives and they are struggling and when they make choices and they are growing like I do.
So, you know, like I'm feeling like I am growing, but at the same time they are and they have been growing as a human.
They're not perfect either.
So that's what I found recently actually.
And so my answer is there is no need to worry about and kind of be forced to think that their parents have to be like perfect parents
or perfect mother, you know, because we are all getting older and growing right now.
So the best way is growing with your kid, your son and, you know, getting older with your son and make like relationship like thicker
and like make story goes on.
That's that's what I think.
15:02
There is no need to worry about one point.
Yeah, I feel you man.
Yeah, I definitely feel you on that.
I have a really similar answer.
I feel like, you know, don't like beat yourself up here.
Like I feel like, you know, judging your own.
I feel like when you're judging your own past mistakes, I feel like that comes from insecurities that you're.
I feel like you're comparing yourself with other parents here.
Like I feel like that comes from like you not having the self-confidence and like that.
First of all, I think two factors here.
One is comparing yourself with other parents, like the insecurities that comes from that.
That's completely like you don't.
That's nothing.
I feel like, you know, you do you you're in your own role is between your and your child's relationship.
And that's that.
So you don't have to worry about the insecurity.
Don't let other parents how they think dictate your decision.
That's one.
And another is like you made a decision that you thought was best at the moment.
So like don't judge yourself.
That's that overlays with the answer you gave a moment ago.
But like, yeah, that's the second one.
Like, right.
You just now have to make the best decision you can do now.
Like if you thought that you've made this earlier was a was a not much of a satisfaction to you.
Then now you have to make the next decision to to to to make it the best out of the situation.
You know, so like that's all there is.
I feel like you know, don't beat yourself up.
It's, you know, the ultimate answer, I think.
Yeah. Yeah.
That was a great one.
It's really fun sometimes have these kind of deep ones.
Yeah. In between several episodes.
In the last two episodes, we were like, how are we going to end this podcast?
We're like, why don't you do a Sakatachi and a fucking scream.
It's really good that we have these little.
That is true.
That is true.
It's really fun, fun for for us.
Right.
Me and you. Yes, yes, yes.
Like it's much more fun compared to discussing which one do you like, chocolate or chocolate.
What was that episode?
I don't know. I might not even post that one.
Yeah. All right.
But yeah, there's a really good topic.
Right. It's 17 minutes.
But it was. It was worth it.
So thanks for your time, guys.
Thanks for listening again.
As always, bye bye.
